I would like to share an experience I had a few months back that was quite pivotal regarding forgiveness. The following event took place a few weeks after I experienced the process called Heart Forgiveness.
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Just hours before I was to do a live radio interview, I went to a favorite park to spend some quiet, meditative time. As I was walking back to my car, I saw that the rear window had been smashed out and that my purse and wallet had been stolen from the backseat. What happened next was the most strange of all... the only thought that crossed my mind was, "leaving your purse in the car was a really dumb thing to do!"
The police officer who came to the scene to fill out the report was very angry, telling me how "out of control and FURIOUS" he would be had this happened to him. What was so bizarre is... I realized I wasn't angry in the least! Anger just wasn't there...anywhere. How strange! I didn’t feel violated…I felt NOTHING other than slight annoyance. In all honesty, I was laughing at myself for being so careless... How cool is that!
The next day I asked myself, "Do I need to forgive this person?" The reply was, "there was nothing to forgive." (Even though the loss I incurred was well over a thousand dollars as my insurance deductible was too high for reimbursement.) Wow…how interesting! It occurred to me at that moment that I was “UNOFFENDABLE!” (The 4th and final session of the Heart Forgiveness process.) What a relief to realize that when given this “test,” how I was able to remain calm and free of anger!
Imagine how much worse I could have made this whole situation had I also gotten angry over it! How does my anger at the person who committed this act HELP me in any way? It doesn’t of course…it only makes it WORSE for ME. Had I allowed myself to get really upset by this event, it probably would have made me sick as we KNOW anger and stress weakens the immune system. I also could have called 10 people and shared my anger and loss with them, further perpetuating the negativity and upset…but chose not to obviously. Spreading bad news never makes either party feel better, it only feeds it, yet so many people can't wait to share their woes with others... Have you ever wondered why?
I realize having your car broken into isn’t a really big deal in the scheme of things… but it’s the point I want to make here. HOW you react to what happens in your life is ALWAYS in your control. Think of the times when someone has wronged you that you’ve lost it and gotten angry. Did it make it better? No…quite the contrary. All this anger is cumulative over a lifetime and takes a major toll on your health. If you allow a person or situation to anger you, you give up your Life Energy, which is the very thing that keeps you thriving and ALIVE.
Living in a place of peace and well-being is our NATURAL state of being. Anger is not. Anger is a learned skill...what is learned can be unlearned WHEN we choose to think and react differently. Dis-ease comes from being out of balance, out of ease.
It was so awesome to discover that my world wasn’t rocked in the least because I am in control of what I will allow to upset me and what I will not. In this case, choosing wasn't even necessary, as be-ing in a place of balance and peace is now my NATURAL state of being. I am in control of my energy...period! When we are in control of our ENERGY, we are FREE!
You too can live free of anger, to be instantly forgiving...to live UNOFFENDABLE...but you must learn to forgive from your HEART. Forgiving from your heart resolves the pain and upset at the root, as opposed to partial forgiveness which so often happens when forgiveness is attempted from the head. To learn more about Heart Forgiveness or to listen to the blog talk radio show where I discuss it in depth, go to http://heartforgiveness.com/?p=12
Perhaps now you understand why I'm so passionate about sharing this tool called Heart Forgiveness with this group. Thank you Dr. Carlson, founder of Core Health and Heart Forgiveness!! Freeing humankind really is achievable when we are at Peace and are PURE in our CORE!
Let go of the anger that keeps YOU imprisoned. Choose to forgive from your HEART today..
Share LOVE All Ways~
Pamela
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Forgiveness at Home Will Help Bring Peace to the World...
The whole world could learn a lot from this very powerful video...and so could each one of us. Regardless of religious preference or no belief at all, this speaks to everyone...
Yes, we've all experienced painful things in life which are difficult to forgive...but how long we allow the pain and anger to continue to hurt us is always our choice. The video below portrays a community that forgave, but when watching this, it occurred to me that the majority of people I assist in achieving forgiveness, 80%+ has to do with a family member, some going back for decades... If we can't achieve peace and forgiveness in our own families, how can we expect there to be peace in the world? Let us all "live what this video teaches..."
The families involved in this video practice peace, love and forgiveness in their own homes and lives on a daily basis, making it possible for them to forgive such a horrific act. Yes, they were agonizing and grief stricken over the event, but had no ANGER or thoughts of revenge. How is this possible??? It is possible because they forgave from their HEART and not their head. It is possible because they know that anger kills. It is possible because they know that resentment, hatred and revenge will NOT ALLOW peace to prevail in their lives in any way, shape or form, and in addition will shatter the very foundation of their existence, their truth and everything they stand for as a people. It is possible because they choose LOVE at all cost...and know that the gift of love and forgiveness is ALWAYS the right answer for everyone...
Our Forgiveness Healing group has members from every race, religion, culture and Continent! Individually and collectively, we can create change, but change begins with us first. I urge everyone who reads this to forgive those in your family who have wronged you in some way...after all, what benefit has come from continuing the grievance? After that, you might feel so good you may want to forgive others in your immediate circle and beyond. The ripple effect could be tremendous, but it all starts with YOU! (You can even report back to me to let me know the result and I will share your story here if you like, personal information will be withheld if desired.)
Always remember, when you offer forgiveness... love is what is returned to you in kind... :)
Until next time...
Share LOVE All Ways~
Pamela
PS. To read this message in your preferred language, go to http://pamelagregory.com and scroll to the bottom of any page to the google translator. All Forgiveness Healing posts are now being archived under the Articles tab...
I invite you to watch this remarkable video by Gregg Braden. It shows an inoperable cancerous tumor disappear on ultrasound in less than 3 minutes while three practitioners stand over her, having a FEELING as if she were already healed. Perfect example of how effective prayer is when praying with the FEELING of that we wish to create, thus bringing about desired change as if it has already happened.
When asked if she could have accomplished this on her own, the response was: "While she probably could have, there's something about us humans that we seem to feel more empowered and stronger when we're supported by others in things we believe in, and the things we choose to accomplish."
"Western physics is now beginning to tell us that the same energy, the same field, that lead to the healing in this woman's body, also can lead to peace between nations."
"The 'feeling' world inside of our bodies, has a direct effect on the world beyond our bodies." Gregg Braden
The most powerful emotion of all is LOVE...and we cannot love fully and unconditionally until we heal first through forgiveness. Imagine the healing that can take place if everyone who reads this, absorbs this information and begins to apply it in our lives, our communities and our world..and passes it on to others... :)
Share LOVE All Ways~
Pamela
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"TO ERR IS HUMAN, BUT TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE" ~ Message from a Member
To members of Forgiveness Healing
July 20 at 11:55pm
Hello Everyone,
The post below is a members response to yesterday's group message regarding "Doing the Right Thing." She offered to share it with the group in hopes it would help others chose to forgive... but wished to remain Anonymous.
I want to share my personal story of forgiveness with you. My ex-husband had an affair many years ago with my best friend and made her pregnant. She miscarried. She was married at the time and still is. I spoke to her as a friend, but she denied everything. Sadly my husband and I ended up divorcing. Her husband to this day does not know or would believe she had an affair with my husband. I do not have the heart to tell him-cause this will cause him pain and he won,t believe me. The point I'm trying to make is that after not being able to talk to my friend for x9 years- one day out of the blue-God laid it on my heart and in my mind, very clearly to forgive her and sit down and write to her. I resisted-feeling I had been the victim and had lost my husband. she still had her husband and was in a loving marriage. this feeling persisted, until one day I sat down in tears and said ok God, what do you want me to say? -cause I don't even know where to start. I then proceeded to write being lead by the Holy Spirit. I basically said what was past was past and we had both suffered hurt and used to be best friends. I would like to forgive and be friends again. I than went on to tell her what had been happening in my life and my children's for the past x9 years. I was very nervous posting the letter. But felt I needed to be obedient. After two weeks I received a reply from her. she was so happy to hear from me and agreed what was past was past. we should and would be friends again and move on. I was delighted. Of course the one true saying came to my mind- TO ERR IS HUMAN, BUT TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE. As mere mortals we don not always easily forgive, but with faith,hope, trust and obedience through God we can. By the way I am naturally a forgiving person, but that one was so hard God had to remind me to do the right thing. Afetrwards I felt lighter and better within. We are still good friends today and in contact. If you,d like to share my story to help others-please do, but please do Not use my name. Godbless you for the wonderful work you are doing, helping,sharing and caring by reaching out to others everywhere. Much Love ........
I wish to thank her for sharing this with all of us. Betrayals don't get much worse than being betrayed by a husband and best friend. I'm so happy for her sake, as well as her friend, that she chose to forgive for reasons which we are well aware. It obviously wasn't an easy thing for her to do, but she proved that by obeying God's guidance, how much lighter and better she feels today. After all, what good can EVER come from staying angry, and harboring hatred toward anyone?? NONE whatsoever. This shows once again that doing the right thing was indeed a double blessing on both sides...
Deep down, we all know what we need to do to heal our hearts. Hard yes, but impossible, No. I hope those of you reading this now will chose to forgive the people in your life who have wronged you, and I hope you chose to do so sooner as opposed to later. Imagine the different life this woman would be leading today had she continued to hate and not forgive. As the saying goes, "You can either be right, or you can be happy." Yes, this woman certainly had justification to be angry, yes she was wronged AND.........? So because of this fact that she was justified and wronged means she CONTINUES to HARM HERSELF, her health, her sanity, her well being with acid thoughts, thus making it far worse for her? Thank God she chose NO!
It is my hope that through these messages, more and more will choose the route this woman did when listening to her guidance...ANYTIME WE feel separate/anger/hatred from another, WE feel sad and bad. Whenever we feel ONE/connected, we feel good and LOVED...we feel GOD...which is DIVINE!
Which do you choose? The choice is always yours... Forgiveness really is a gift you give yourself...
Have you ever noticed that when you've done something for someone because you felt guilted into it, whether by yourself or them, that it didn't benefit either of you in the end? Think back and notice times in your life when you made a decision to do something because you “had” to, and not because you felt it was the right thing to do or had the guidance to do. Guilt and obligation are both negative energies, so the only outcome that could result is a negative one. Even when you have the INTENTION to want to help, but you do so because you will feel guilty if you don't, it will end up being a lose/lose for both of you.
The contrasting affect is, when we do something because we know it is the right thing to do, it benefits BOTH sides. Doing what we know in our heart is right ALWAYS results in a double blessing. Doing the right thing may not be fun, convenient, or something we would choose to do if a certain need didn't exist, but when you look back after the fact, you feel good inside...which is healthy for you, and those you've helped feel the love and care shown by your efforts, which obviously is healthy for them.
This reminds me of a lecture given by Dr. Wayne Dyer. He spoke of a study that showed a rather dramatic boost in the immune system in individuals who were the receivers of an act of kindness. In addition, they discovered the one who performed the act of kindness also had a boost in their immune system...and even an observer of this kind act showed a strengthening in their immune system. This proves, as if we needed proof, that by doing the right thing really does make a difference, in more ways than we ever knew.
Of course, I would be remiss if I didn't tie in forgiveness here. When you forgive others, it most definitely is “doing the right thing” as the benefits to you are tremendous. When you harbor anger and are unforgiving of ourselves or another, it leads to an acid environment in our body. Acid thoughts create acid in the body. Cancer can only survive in an acid environment. Anger releases high voltage toxic chemicals inside your body, contributing to heart disease. It also pulls calcium from your bones and joints, resulting in arthritis and osteoporosis... the brain shuts down making it impossible to think clearly. Do you see all the dis-ease that is caused by these toxic thoughts? Do you see the damage you are doing to yourself when holding on to the pain and anger from the past? This is why, FORGIVENESS (letting go of anger) is so HEALING...and is most definitely “doing the right thing” for everyone involved. :)
Share LOVE All Ways~
Pamela
NOTE: To read this message in other languages, scroll to the bottom of any page here on my website, click on the translator, and pick your desired language...
This past week, my facebook account was disabled without warning or explanation. Upon discovering our Forgiveness Healing group still existed, I created a new account so I may communicate with you now.
Since I do not know why they canceled my previous account, and thus they may cancel me again, I wanted to say some things to you all while I still can.
I created this group almost a year ago to this date… In doing so, I never could have predicted how well it would be received or how much you all would grow to mean to me! The heartfelt messages so many of you shared with me and with each other are words I will always treasure. Getting to know so many of you personally this past year, learning about your families, your cultures, your beliefs, your love and joy, your hurt and pain…have allowed me to learn, for the first time in my life really, what UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FEELS like and is all about… In reading your messages, I privately cheered you on when you’ve forgiven someone or accomplished a desired goal, and cried with you when you shared with me why forgiveness wasn’t possible for you now... or were disheartened in some way.
The biggest loss I will feel should my account not get reinstated, are the thousands of messages and correspondence from you that I so cherished and therefore, never deleted. It is most sad that the decision to keep or delete these messages was taken from me. But what can never be taken away is what you’ve all grown to mean to me in ways you’ll never understand. This group has become like my “chosen” family of sorts, because we share such a heartfelt, mutual interest...which ultimately is to achieve unconditional love for our self and one another, but first we must learn to FORGIVE… No easy feat to be sure, but well worth the effort...
If this account also gets deleted at some point, and should you wish to contact me, please remember you can always reach me through my website (which is easy to remember if you can remember my name): http://PamelaGregory.com On my site is a pre-release version of a book I hope to publish one day called “Healing Your Life with Forgiveness and Love.” Please accept this free e-book as my gift to you, as a way of saying THANK YOU for being such a GIFT to me. :-)
I love you...I adore you...I honor you for who you are now… and for who you are on your way to becoming...
You all mean the world to me and I feel privileged and blessed to be sharing this path with you…
All My Love and Endless Blessings to YOU All Ways~
Pamela
xoxo
I would like to address a common thread that keeps coming up in many of my sessions the past few weeks...that is, somewhere along the way, we forgot the reason we are here...
All of us here at this very moment have a very unique purpose to fulfill. The issue for most of us is, there is so much confusion about what this purpose is, that we forever wander through life looking for what is right in front of our nose. Knowing what our purpose is, is really quite easy to identify. OUR PURPOSE IS TO BE IN ALIGNMENT WITH OUR SOUL’S DESIRE! We are happy, peaceful and thriving when we’re in alignment; we’re sick, depressed and miserable when we aren’t. Our dreams and desires are the only things that truly excite us. They excite us to keep our interest to ENSURE that we pursue them. We wouldn’t have the dreams and desire to do certain things, if we weren’t meant to do or become them! Unfortunately, what happens is we begin telling ourselves at a very young age, that we CAN’T achieve our dreams. They’re too big or too impractical, we don’t have the money or time to, the list goes on and on. We let our fears talk us out of everything we want in our lives. This fear in actuality is anger, unforgiveness and frustration. We blame others for holding us back, for not believing in us, when it’s only ourselves that doesn’t believe in us and are to blame. We have guilt, regret and we wonder why we’re sick, tired and unhappy. This “not feeling good,” whether it’s dis-ease or depression, is not an accident! It is your souls way of getting your attention, to get you back on track…the longer we deny ourselves, the sicker we become and the more our lives don’t work.
I cannot tell you how important it is to take back the reins of your life by giving YOURSELF PERMISSION to honor who you are!
Last week I had a very interesting conversation with Harry Shade on Blog Talk Radio regarding Heart Forgiveness. We ran out of time before we could discuss the RESULT achieved when using Heart Forgiveness, which is 100% forgiveness of others, ourselves, and God. When we no longer have any forgivness/anger issues, we are FINALLY FREE to become who we came here to be!
Harry and I will continue the conversation tomorrow night, Wednesday, 10:00-11:30 PM EDT. We extended the normal 1 hour show so we have time to cover all the material and answer all your questions.
Please join us if you are interested in learning more and joining in on the discussion. You can access the show either by computer or phone. All shows are archived and available for download if time zone and schedule is an issue. Register for the event here: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=93684334653 or go to http://blogtalkradio.com/harryshade.
You can find out more about Heart Forgiveness here on my website at by clicking the Heart Forgiveness tab. You can adjust this site to your language preference by scrolling to the bottom of the page. All Forgiveness Healing messages will be posted there under “Articles,” so translation that so many have inquired about is no longer a problem. :-)
About a month ago I was introduced to a very powerful tool called Heart Forgiveness that makes forgiveness of ourselves and others finally ACHIEVABLE. I found Heart Forgiveness to be the missing link I've been searching for that will help all of us in our quest to fully resolve our forgiveness issues, along with the anger, guilt and grief that so often accompanies it. I will be discussing HF Wednesday, 6/17 at 10PM EST, on blog talk radio with Harry Shade. I invite you to listen in live or you may download the segment to listen to at a later time. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/HarryShade/2009/06/11/Talking-Forgiveness-with-Pamela-Gregory
Please Note: Starting today, ALL messages sent to the Forgiveness Healing group can now be translated to almost any language at my website http://PamelaGregory.com listed under the "Articles" tab. Scroll down to the bottom of any page and you will find a Google Translator feature that allows every page to be translated to your desired language...including these group messages. What amazing technology! :-)
Peace, Love and Blessings All Ways~
Pamela
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